Feeling deserted and alone…….

February 2016 was an horrific month for me. I lost my beloved mother on the 21st  and then on the  24th I went to see my neurologist and he gave me the news I had been waiting to hear for so long, you have Primary Progressive MS.  Too late to tell my mum what was wrong with me, even though we thought it was MS.  

My neurologist and I had been together 10 years. My neurologist had always felt there was something like MS going on but was unable to give me a firm diagnoses as there was a protocol to go through called the McDonald Criteria.

I kept missing it by one point then on that day finally the last piece of the jigsaw had come together and he was able to give me a life changing diagnosis.

The last piece of the jigsaw puzzle. I did have MS.

A label.  I was numb anyway couldn’t feel much because I was grieving for my mother still in shock over her horrific passing.  I almost hugged my neurologist because of my emotional state.  Basically his parting words were to me, your strong Mrs Trim, if you need anything talk to your MS nurse, and keep your doctor in the loop. So far I have never seen him again.

MS Nurse. Ah the invisible helper. You can if your lucky get hold of the elusive MS nurse who sadly is so overworked they are rarer then hens teeth.  We are blessed with two I believe for a large area a big city who has to cope with so many people. You ring them if your feel anxious about something.  Firstly you have to be assigned one. I had been apparently; but typically I was lost in the system.

I felt deserted by the NHS. I was told my life is officially changed, you have a progressive disease go forth and deal with it. I felt like someone had plonked me on a desert island and i was just sat there watching my life fly by.  It took a full year to finally be assigned an MS nurse it was my new doctor who pushed for it. I saw my MS nurse just before my husband died in October 2017.

Well that was an experience. Off I went on my appointment. Basically to be told very little. I had been coping with eye issues really bad.  The MS nurse decided to check my eyes by using a colour screen chart they use for colour blindness. Now that was a hoot as he was colour blind himself, so my care worker at the time had to keep him informed of what the colour was. I did mention this before in one of my other blogs. They use these to see if you can see the number.

colour blind testing

I gather that I failed the test and he told me that for the last few months my symptoms would indicate another attack of Optical Neuritis which had been totally missed by the GP.  The only thing you can do for this is steroids but it was too late for me so I had to expect about a year of on and off symptoms, which well yes I actually did get lucky me.

Who knew a diagnosis of Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis would leave you feeling alone and frightened. I kind of knew what Robinson Crusoe had felt being stranded on an island waiting for help and it never ever seeming to arrive.  Yes that was fiction mine is reality which makes it all the worse.

Finally another occasion to see the MS Nurse in 2018 I was told that an appointment would be scheduled for me to see my neurologist in March 2019 to discuss the new drug for PPMS sufferers.

Ocrevus (ocrelizumab) could be my saviour, help me to slow down the progression, so obviously it was HOPE for me. Maybe finally I could get off this island and join the human race again.   I waited for notice of a pending appointment nothing.

Then I read on a forum for MS sufferers the news………….

The NHS will not fund treatment with Roche’s recently-approved multiple sclerosis drug Ocrevus, even though it is the only treatment for the primary progressive form of the disease.

The final appraisal document from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) has caused consternation among patients – and an immediate petition from the MS Society – for Roche, NHS England and NICE to reach an agreement that will allow the drug to be covered for PPMS.

It was down to MONEY again. It cost too much, never mind the cost of human suffering. We were to be denied a possible drug that could make our journey easier. Money we were not worthy of such a sacrifice. It made me so mad. 

I believe that is why so far no appointment for the neurologist as he knows there is really nothing he can do for me.

So what now for me and hundreds of other sufferers of Primary Progressive MS. Do we just sit drifting along for years whiling away our days hoping for help to arrive?  I feel like the lost.  Its all down to money the price of life.  Its available if its PAID for but costs thousands of pounds.  It is thankfully available for people suffering with RRMS if they are in the early stages.

I know the chances of being accepted for this drug were pretty remote as it’s designed more for early stage PPMS but someone out there may have been a great candidate for it and benefit from this drug.

In the meantime I have done all I can to help myself. I have read everything I can about my illness whats good what is not, tried to stay positive.

Primary Progressive MS is really pretty much unknown about. Its one of those ADD on branches of a disease.  Therefore not so much research done about it.  I know more people now being diagnosed with it, so perhaps it is time the powers that be start to deal with it more. You cant just dump people on top of a scrap heap without at least trying to help them.  10 – 15,000 people in the UK are now being diagnosed with this disease. So basically 1 in 8 people will be waiting to be diagnosed.

Yes I feel deserted lost and alone. Thank goodness for friends and family is all I can say.

I know there is more research going on and hopefully in a few years people newly diagnosed will be helped more. Thankfully this disease can be slow to progress and even you can have a period of feeling better. Like it goes into idle mode.

I used to call this this stage the eye of the storm. I would say to my hubby the eye of the storm is here and I am smack bang in the middle as my illness has suddenly gone all  calm, my legs have no spasms even, like for a few minutes a little longer if I am lucky all is calm at sea and I can see the light through the doom and gloom of my illness.  

The eye of the storm.

Then BLAM……….. havoc. Suddenly the disease will come out of its idle stage and goes nuts for a few days like it has to catch up on all the pain it has not given me.

Stupid disease, sometimes I would rather it just get on with it.  I know silly to say but you just don’t know where you are with it.  I haven’t had a truly calm moment for several years now, just more or less at the same level so I suppose in a way that is good. 

After my husband died I did go down hill fast but in the last six months thankfully I feel with positivity and less stress I am on an even keel.

Right I am off; my island is calling me, I shall while away my days in quiet contemplation of life, and chill out listening to music and wait, and wait and who knows maybe one day a brown envelope with my name may come plopping on the mat and it will be from my neurologist to finally ask to see me………….

Who knows maybe there will be a letter today……

UPDATE. 19th July 2019. Finally the letter came and I saw my neurologist on Tuesday 16th July after THREE YEARS. It was a good appointment. He was very welcoming and sad to hear about my husband. Anyway he offered me a chance of Ocrevus but said it was a long road to find if i actually would be able to go on it, and yes my age was against me. I have all the stuff to read about it, but feel its too late for me, and I am not comfortable with the side effects, and the warning that if there is breast cancer in the family the chances of it are made much higher if i start this meds. It also stirs up your autoimmune system and leaves you more open to stuff like, flu, herpes, hepatitis, shingles the list is quite vast.

I am not sure that I want to take all these risks. I live in sheltered and a lot of people get sick in the winter here a lot of them being elderly so I am more open to catching something.

I have decided though if you want support you wont necessarily get it from the NHS. You need to join forums, start a blog, if you have MS join the Society and go for meetings (a bit like joining the AA lol), join on line groups and hope too your family will support you through this life changing disease. BUT remember that everyone has their own stuff to deal with and may not have time to help. Find a hobby, if your younger then get out with friends and have a life. MS is not going anywhere, so we might as well get on with our life as best we can.


So finally NICE have approved this medication for PPMS. I dont think I will be able to get it as my EDSS score is 7 not sure how long i have had it, but great news for those PPMSers who have just been diagnosed or recently diagnosed as its a start. A start a hope to get better. I am so relieved for all my friends with this disease.

Thanks to Caz who runs a fabulous web site for Chronic Illness

Its very informative.


8 thoughts on “Feeling deserted and alone…….”

  1. I empathize! After fifteen years of symptoms I was finally diagnosed with PPMS three years ago. I’ve seen my neurologist once, and the MS nurse three times. The continence advisor and the physio are much more helpful! I’m also pushing seventy, so bit of a lost cause as far as the NHS are concerned 😐


  2. Hi its very kind of you. It is a difficult disease, it slowly robs you of yourself. the person who you were slowly goes. I try to be positive always, some days it is hard though. x


  3. I am so sorry for everything you’ve had to go through, from waiting so long for someone to confirm what was going on and then to be left feeling so abandoned after being given such a huge diagnosis like MS. And then your husband dying in late 2017. My heart ached reading this post. It infuriates me beyond belief when others have been so let down by the NHS too 😦

    I may have completely confused myself with reading your post, but I saw news tonight that ocrelizumab has been given the green light by NICE so I would imagine it would now/soon be funded by the NHS – https://www.mstrust.org.uk/news/good-news-nice-approves-ocrevus-ocrelizumab-primary-progressive-ms

    “This reverses an earlier decision by NICE to reject Ocrevus for PPMS. The final publication of this decision was paused to allow time for further discussions to take place between NICE, NHS England and drug manufacturer Roche.”

    I really hope I’m right in posting this. I don’t want to get your hopes up but in case you’ve not seen this news yet please do take a look.
    Caz xxxx


    1. Hi Caz thank you for your kind words, the road has been hard I must admit.

      No i hadnt heard about the turn around, i will check MS society now, as no one was talking about this yesterday. However, I fear it is too late for me anyway as they say they need people who have just started their PPMS journey for it to be effective. I am glad though if it has been passed as it gives such great hope to PPMS sufferers. Thanks for pointing it out going to have a read now. xxxx

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  4. I was diagnosed. Over 25 years ago with MS . I live in Houston Texas . I feel so BAD for you having to wait for so long for a doctors appointment and a diagnosis. Maybe I am one of a lucky few people out there that have fantastic doctors and nurses and any medication that can and does help me with different problems with my MS that I encounter. It would be great if everyone with this awful and frustrating disease could be given the same treatment and help that is given to me. I am so appreciative for the treatment I am receiving. !!


    1. A lot of my friends even the USA have had to wait. I think the problem with MS is shares so many other diseases with regard to symptoms. My nuerologist said to me he has learnt a lot from my case. Does not see a lot of PPMS as its quite rare. He even has reviewed the way he diagnosis MS. His words to me were I am thinking now i have some that have been diagnosed that shouldnt have been and vice versa. Scary isnt it. i wonder how many people have been misdiagnosed and could have something else which is curable. xx


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